{"id":13285,"date":"2026-09-14T15:32:39","date_gmt":"2026-09-14T07:32:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/?p=13285"},"modified":"2026-09-15T01:37:05","modified_gmt":"2026-09-14T17:37:05","slug":"the-other-is-hell-the-importance-of-establishing-a-correct-sense-of-self-worth-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/2026\/09\/14\/the-other-is-hell-the-importance-of-establishing-a-correct-sense-of-self-worth-2\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201cThe Other\u00a0is Hell\u201d \u2013 The Importance of Establishing a Correct Sense of Self-Worth"},"content":{"rendered":"

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In today\u2019s society, much of people\u2019s anxiety originates from \u201cthe other.\u201d This includes not only placing extreme importance on the opinions of society and others but also blindly adhering to societal values. This ultimately becomes a strong attachment throughout one\u2019s life, striving for the recognition of others and constantly forcing oneself to meet the so-called \u201cperfect standards\u201d widely acknowledged in order to showcase oneself and attempt to become the perfect image in the eyes of others. Many people mistakenly believe that the \u201cself-confidence\u201d gained from positive evaluations and affirmation from others is \u201csolid.\u201d However, it is often difficult to satisfy the perfect standards in the minds of everyone. Even if these individuals receive affirmation from most people, they may still be easily discouraged and anxious due to criticism from a minority or some individuals, magnifying others\u2019 criticisms excessively. The false \u201cself-confidence\u201d established in the value and affirmation of others can easily collapse in a short time, like a castle in the air.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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L\u2019enfer c\u2019est les autres No exit, and three other plays, Sartre \u6c99\u7279, Jean-Paul , p.275, (1989) , 1-46:45<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

French philosopher Sartre later explained that this statement does not mean that \u201cthe other\u201d possesses the qualities of \u201chell.\u201d Instead, it means that when we die, our impressions in the minds of others become permanently solidified, and we can no longer resist their subjective interpretations. While we are alive, we can constantly express and adjust the impressions we give to others. However, after death, this freedom disappears, and we are ultimately buried in the solidified memories and feelings of others. Under the gaze of others, the torment produced by the adjustment of our world and the world of \u201cothers\u201d due to conflict makes us feel extremely uneasy and uncomfortable when walking down the street and facing the stares of passers-by, even to the point of fear. This is because the gaze of others turns us into the object of their evaluation. In Sartre\u2019s view, human interaction often involves struggles between subjectivities, even in love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sartre\u2019s \u201cthe other is hell\u201d has three layers of logic:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. If one cannot treat others correctly, then the other becomes one\u2019s \u201chell.\u201d Once the relationship with others deteriorates, one will suffer even more in \u201chell.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. If one cannot accept the evaluations of others, then the evaluations of others become one\u2019s \u201chell.\u201d The opinions of others have\u00a0reference value but don\u2019t overly rely on or value them. Otherwise, you will also endure hell-like pain.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. If one fails to establish any self-worth, and all definitions of one\u2019s value come from others to the point where they become the sole criterion for judging one\u2019s self-worth, then one becomes one\u2019s own \u201chell.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    The evaluations of others are like inferior building materials. When one\u2019s confidence is built upon these unreliable building materials, it is easy to collapse with even the slightest external impact. On the other hand, correct self-worth is like the highest quality and most solid building material, which can withstand any external impact. However, this kind of building material must be found from within oneself, by constantly focusing on the present moment and trying to discover different choices and possibilities in life, in order to find the ideal building material (self-worth) that belongs to oneself.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    In modern society, anxiety stems from excessive concern over others’ opinions and societal values, leading to a distorted sense of self-worth. Sartre posits that reliance on external validation creates a fragile self-confidence that can easily collapse. True self-worth must be cultivated internally, through self-discovery and living in the present.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":193014733,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_seo_schema_type":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":true,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_wpcom_ai_launchpad_first_post":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[776836640],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13285","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category--english-version"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pcmYUB-3sh","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13285","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/193014733"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13285"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13285\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13288,"href":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13285\/revisions\/13288"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13285"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13285"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/whalefallnotes.blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13285"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}