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In daily life, we often encounter situations that can trigger negative emotions. The fundamental reason for this is the existence of the “self.” Some people can easily resolve their negative emotions, while others can have their negative emotions occupy their minds for the whole day just because of a few simple words from others. In some cases, this can even lead to serious mental illness. Resolving negative emotions after they have arisen is a less effective approach. The most efficient way is to nip them in the bud. But what should we do if we do experience negative emotions? Zhuangzi tells several stories using three different methods to resolve negative emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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When Confucius visited the state of Chu and walked through a forest, he saw a hunchbacked man catching cicadas with his hands as if he were picking something up. Confucius approached him and asked, “You’re really skilled at this! Is there a trick to it?” The hunchbacked man replied, “If you can stack two round pellets on the end of a stick without them falling off, then few cicadas can escape. If you stack three pellets, then only one in ten cicadas can escape. If you can stack five pellets, then catching cicadas is as easy as picking things up with your hand. When I stand there, my body is like a tree stump, and my arm holding the stick is like a dry branch of a dead tree. Although the world is so vast and there are so many things in it, I only pay attention to the cicada’s wings. My mind is calm, with no other thoughts, and I don’t let anything else distract me from my focus on the cicada’s wings. That’s how I can catch cicadas so easily.” Confucius turned back to his disciples and said, “Being focused on one thing means concentrating all your energy in one place. Isn’t that what this hunchbacked old man has done?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When we focus our attention on one thing with single-mindedness, our conscious mind gains complete control, and we are not influenced by emotions or desires.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u7a7a\u8239 Empty Boat<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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You are driving a small boat on a river when suddenly an empty boat collides with yours. Even someone with a bad temper would not get too angry. However, if there was a person on the other boat, you might yell at them loudly. If they don’t respond to your first shout, you may shout three times and even use foul language. Why does the presence or absence of a person on the other boat make such a big difference? It’s because we know that other people will react to our emotions, just as we don’t get angry at inanimate objects like stones or animals. Would you curse at a rock if you accidentally tripped over it? If we treat others as “emotionless objects” that won’t communicate with us or respond emotionally like dead wood or stones, we can easily diffuse our anger towards them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u7121\u6211 Selflessness<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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There is a type of person in the world who cannot be pushed forward even if everyone in the world praises and flatters them together, nor can they be discouraged even if everyone in the world criticizes them together. Why is this? It’s because they know what is “inside” and what is “outside.” They establish their own sense of self-worth and do not consider other people’s evaluations as part of their “self-worth.” They isolate themselves from other people’s values \u200b\u200bthoroughly and do not let any external objects or people affect their inner world.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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