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Imagine a scenario where you are hit by a stick and lose all your memories. You might feel happy or indifferent, but at least you won\u2019t feel pain or sadness. If you agree with this view, then the problem lies in your memory. Because your memories can affect your current emotions, but they won\u2019t have any physical impact on you now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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If you want to have a deeper life experience, risk management cannot be too tight, you cannot protect yourself too well, but the pain after being injured will be more profound. If you want a safer life, risk management cannot be too loose, you cannot invest in every thing and every relationship without protecting yourself well, although the pain caused by the injury is less, the life experience will also be relatively reduced due to protective measures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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People have a kind of self-protection mechanism at the subconscious level. Because the subconscious will unconsciously and automatically adjust the life risk management plan according to a person\u2019s life experience and trauma, if you have suffered a major trauma or continuous trauma, your risk management will become very conservative. These traumas are also related to the subconscious that did not rationally protect oneself at the beginning, allowing oneself to fully invest in a relationship and a thing without any rational constraints, and the pain felt in the end is also very deep and deeply adds more of a self-protection mechanism. This requires coexistence with past traumas to lift this mechanism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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So, the meaning of coexisting with pain is that what you need to deal with is actually the connection between the past and the present. As long as you break this connection, even if you have these memories, you won\u2019t feel pain or unhappiness. The method is to feel those bad memories from the past, stay in the storm without being blown away, and it won\u2019t bother you over time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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The actual situation might be that you are in the wild with no shelter, in the storm, but you sit quietly somewhere, any wind and rain, control yourself like a mountain. You may feel cold, pain, tired, etc., but don\u2019t let these emotions and feelings affect you. When the emotion comes, just do it. You don\u2019t have to say that you have to do it like meditation or mindfulness, you can treat it as a coping plan when emotions come.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Finally, is it your memory or other people that make you suffer? This is a question that needs to be thought about.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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